MY PRIDE & fucken JOY!

“Hey! First thing first, I adore your writing. You may be an adult but you are the true voice of the teenagers. It’s unbelievable how you capture the things we can’t say because we are stuck in this awkward age of being in adolescence. We are expected to act like grown-ups but have all these restrictions and things that we aren’t allowed to do yet. Like everyone else we wake up, go to a place where we don’t really want to be, get judged, fall in and out of love more times then we dye our hair during our rebellious phases and yet we can all relate to ‘The Wisdom of the Penis’ book. The way it's written is almost like this generation’s version of the relationship bible. It deals with all relationships; it deals with the issues we all have experienced, problems. Nichole Kolman you are someone I am proud and feel very honored to know because of how honest, kind and intelligent you are. Not only has your writing helped me but you, yourself has helped to make me the young woman I am today. ‘The Wisdom of the Penis’ is going to help young ladies around the world, but that’s the thing… You don’t have to be in your teens to read and understand the true meaning. I will be giving this book to my Mom and my friends so they can understand we are not alone in our feelings of insecurity and confusion about modern day relationships. Although this book is written in what people my parents age would say, as ‘confusing’ we just call it “instant messaging lingo” you feel as if you are reading your own youth. Nichole is someone who is going to change the world, whether it be by one alarming, eye-catching title at a time, whatever. The title of the book may seem shocking, but the real boner is the content. Thank you on behalf of all the girls you have helped, whether it was before, during or even too late, we all realize how lucky we are to have you as a friend. A real inspiration. xxxx - Mariah 

 It was a complete surprise when you just came and sat next to me. I had only seen you in the gym on a few different occasions. What you did was different than what anyone else had ever done. I’ve never had anyone be so ‘exact’ about who I am, what I’ve been through, where I’m going. That’s RARE. You feel me, you know where my strength is. That’s extremely comforting. You hit the nail on the head. And I knew you knew me inside cuz I had never talked to you. You reinforced the things I wanted, needed on the way, doing. Moving in circles, you walked with me until I could move ahead—now instead of circles my focus is clear. Again, very comforting and very rare—I mean WHO DOES THAT? After you talked to me Nichole… I began to question myself less. I am not influenced by others but I was affected by you. I know now that the circle has stopped... I’m focused, I strive for people to understand me, but they don’t. You do... Thank you 

This book is more than unique Nichole it’s the Bible that Jesus would use. I mean this in the sort of humorous, non-offending way of course, ha! But this overall gives a genuine tone of honesty. You like what you do and people like what you do too. You know we all got the questions and uncertainties, and that at the very least, you have the guidance that shall direct us to the right answer. Soft-core poet. I like. 

Nichole I don’t know where to begin with the way it made me feel… after realizing. The past few days I’ve been fucked up… like ‘muddled’ and completely distant and out of it. And now that I feel like myself… and actually feel… now, that I’m back on my feet and grounded, I realized how you built this kind of haven around me while I gave myself a chance to come back together. I just wanted to tell you how much I love you. 

 Nichole, thank you so much! Your insight has proved invaluable! :D When what happened twice I thought I was going to lose it. I couldn’t stand that whore of an ex that was giving lap dances to some guy that I hated at the bus stop. I thought that I was going to kill them all, I felt pissed at both the guy and my ex. Moreover, I felt stupid about myself, because I asked her out before. I saw someone beautiful, not a slut. But this is where you showed me how different you were from everyone else. You didn’t say ‘ignore it’, you showed me a way to not just stop her actions—that really hurt me, but to change how she behaved towards me. And as I did what you said when she was trying to be a slut, she never did it again. It worked flawlessly! She never waited for me to come to the bus stop, and she never did it again. She’s out of my life now and all because of some simple, but golden advice that I would’ve never been able to fathom. When you gave me a chapter to read I could not believe what I was reading. Finally!!! Someone who understands us! I want to go scream at the top of my lungs about The Wisdom of the Penis! It is so NEEDED!!!! Nichole, thank you sooo much! :DDDDD.    

*Hug* Nichole you are inspiring, contagious, stunningly beautiful, imaginative, young, vibrant, intelligent, a role model, a leader, an out-of-the-box forward thinker, innovative, and so many other things! And I have barely met you! You are awesome, truly. Nichole, if “we are the future”, we need people like YOU to share with us, guide us, help show us so we can be ourselves and to help show us so we can step outside of what is comfortable (routine, tradition, or safe in a possibly unhealthy way) if we want to. And I think we NEED to! YOU and what you have to share are a big part of the future too! And you so have something HUGE and shaking to share, so be loud girl!  

Since I’ve known you Nichole, my life has drastically changed. My perspective, my goals, the way I have learned to interpret life, my relationships, and myself belief. At the point in my life before we got to know each other, I was lonely and felt like so many things in life were just NOT worth it. I had no one that truly understood me, and I couldn’t relate to any of my other friends. I knew how smart I was, and what I was capable of, but it just seemed completely pointless to go through school MEMORIZING everything, and following a structure of a lifestyle I didn’t fit in with. I KNEW drugs would alter me in a bad way, I knew it was a waste of myself... to just waste away because I felt aware and alone. I didn’t know what to do! I didn’t know what profession I wanted to go into, I didn’t know where I was going to end up! I had decided… I’d be a gypsy. I’ll move away, somewhere in the wilderness, with nature, somewhere secluded, and not obstructed by pollution… with the one I love. And that’s what I’d do with my life. I completely felt you from the moment we met, I knew you‘d be the only one I could really talk to. Your book’s concept changed me. I’d come home to my mom and I’d be like, “MOM, TODAY IM MAKING $500.00!! OKAY.” You helped me realize the value of pursuing something that made me happy, and why it was so important TO ME to take care of myself. And that I couldn’t do it as a gypsy in a trailer park. As a woman, there are things I need, to be healthy, to be happy… and vice versa. You helped me discover that I wanted to help people, I learned that I could. And that is why this book is so fucking important! It helps people! ACTUALLY though, it’s not like a self-help book type thing that’s BORING. Nichole your book has helped teens quit DRUGS, leave ABUSIVE UNFAITHFUL boyfriends, girlfriends, STOP drinking, RE-INSTILL SELF-WORTH so teens aren’t having casual sex, PURSUE their DREAMS because they believe in themselves! My friends have changed, I’ve changed, everyone that comes into contact with your life altering concepts, CHANGE.  

I was ready to walk out the door. I knew Nichole would be the only one who would get to him. I couldn't believe how she ‘knew’ what I was feeling. And would tell my husband in our session without me telling her. That got me to trust her. Her insight, about how my parents are, freaked me out. How would she even know my mother doesn’t throw the scraps of vegetables out, but throws it back into the soup? The assignments she left us put us on track. She brought to my awareness… me, my needs, my voice (which I never released). She made it fun. She made me laugh so much with her analogies. She made it simple and it was ‘clear’ what was off. Her concepts were right on and made sense. I felt completely safe with her. I could NOT believe when my husband started doing the laundry, picking up his clothes—asking me if he could help me around the house. I WAS IN SHOCK. If you go to Nichole you too will be surprised, relieved (laugh a lot) see yourself, your life and your guy (girl) in a TOTAL different way. As a newlywed I had a very hard time adjusting to the changes in my life. A final conflict between my husband and I made me realize I needed some help. Calling Nichole was the best thing I could have done for myself and my marriage. She was able to make us see each other’s sides, she taught us valuable lessons that will help us in the long run and she restored my hope.  

Wow – this is a book that should be read by every Millennial and Gen Z’er. In case I wasn’t clear… this is mandatory reading!! Nichole has written this book in a way that will speak to all young adults – and their parents! It’s insightful, honest and very refreshing. This book gets right to the point and allows young women to know their value and teaches young men the right way to get the satisfying relationship they didn’t know they wanted. It is obvious how much Nichole cares about our teens and young adults, I wish I had this book when I was younger! Tracy Gray Entrepreneur and College Instructor  

 I have got to say … 2 years ago i got very interested in your book and we had a conversation about it. you helped me get out of an abusive relationship because you helped me grab the courage to do so. And I'm abuse free. thank you so very much. I wish I could cry n hug you. Now I've finally found one damn good man and yup thanks for that too. I never knew true love could scare the crap out of me but I love the fear of love and the man I love too. You are way groovy ??? 

 Nichole did what others couldn’t... listen. She could listen to more than just problems, she could hear the tone in my voice. The amount of weight I carried with each story as one progressed darker, she could visualize the pain I had. It was incredible, simply because she gave me power to see where to go, to lead me on the right path. She’s a life mentor, a guardian. She’s a special person with a gift to give people, the courage to walk away from shadows, to back away from dark tunnels. She gave me the courage to turn away from those who did me wrong, she gave me a lantern, a special lantern that lit up the dark. I have no desire to do drugs. I knew I needed to see her because I couldn’t take it anymore. I had no strength to fight my demons, to cast aside my temptations. She showed me courage, she showed me a plan… A plan to jump to an opportunity of a lifetime. My life. I cried in front of Nichole nor did I care if anyone saw. The only thing was, I loved how she still listened and knew. Just KNEW what to say, how I felt, where I was coming from. You know, if it wasn’t for January 29th 2013, 9:05 pm when I saw her, my life would be out of control… Spiraling down into a world of addiction, no sense of love and feeling, just temptation… winding and winding. Nichole is and will always be more than a treasure or an asset, she is a gift. She is inspiration, she is a message in a bottle, cast upon an open sea, reaching out to anyone whose interest is to read what this message in a bottle is. She’s more than advice, she’s an artisan whose only objective is to shape our world alive. To build an empire of our own, to fill it with knowledge, wonder and love. Side note: Nichole, ever since that day I have no desire for pot nor those who I surround myself with. You have honestly altered my life once again. I remember the first time I cried on the phone with you, you gave me the strength to turn away from the girl who hurt me, the vultures picking at my dead Tony, to lift him up and nurture him.
P.S. I fully extend an invitation to my wedding. I don’t know where she is but you’re invited and it’s happening. lol!! 

I give this book a 5 star review! It is amazing! When I read the first few pages and I laughed my ass off and also cried my eyes out. This book is also an Oracle to which I can say it's TRUE and it does work. On multiple occasions I used the book to help with my own personal issues and it worked Every...Single... Time... It was exactly what I needed to hear and KNOW! Not only was it real and personal it was also enjoyable to read. Nichole Kolman made her book beautiful inside and out and I highly recommend this book for anyone in desperate need for wisdom into their personal life and relationships. This book was made for us youngsters. I am 21 and this book had me smiling the whole time I read it. It had slang and terminology that I use on a daily to talk and text with my friends. I have never read a book more relatable and insightful in my life!!  Emily

I have known Nichole for six years now. I met her while she was writing her book. Instantly, I was intrigued. Once I read a sample chapter I was excited to see that the way she writes reminds me of Maria Montessori and her principles in regards to the way she developed the Montessori School System. It felt so right. The life lessons, inner tools, self value principles, connection with nature and your own instincts all matched, were sound and inspiring. It’s about time a book like this came out. Most of the information seems like ‘common sense’ however, most people are missing this knowledge. This book is meant to offer inspiration, support, wisdom, and knowledge to teens and young adults who have always wanted ‘more’, but didn’t know how to get it, didn’t fit in, felt lost, scared, pressured, hurt, or are oblivious to the mistakes they are making. This book is like the key answer to the biggest exam (life). As a Montessori teacher, I see the huge need and value in this book for our students, parents, as well as us adults, who don’t feel threatened when knowledge is presented in a way that’s designed for the generation preceding us. Since the book deals with a time when we, most likely didn’t have a book to make sense of things, it gives us closure on some things, establishes a healthy, inspired reconnection to ourselves and has the innocence, newness and energy of first-time love within sight. Nichole presents her ideas through personal stories and metaphors, in a language young adults understand and makes it interactive. Sadly we, as well as our girls use the media as a reference on how to act and look. The media is sending incorrect and destructive messages. She addresses this on all fronts, from media control, to self image, forced peer pressure (work, school, relationships) and going against the pack. In today’s world, when watching a show or movie the female characters are usually having casual sex. This is how sex is portrayed. They almost always sleep with the guy on the first or second night, or leave that one and find someone else. Is this the message you want to be sending to your teens? Or even to adult women? In overcoming her obstacles and during her ten year run writing this book, she’s never stopped writing, no matter what loss she incurred, health challenge or emotional pain. This enables her to reach every single person from every corner of the world. I’m always amazed by her strength and determination. Those are awesome qualities that she possesses. Anyone reading this book will feel like she’s right there. They’ll feel like they can get through anything. Nichole breaks it down and shows them how to respect themselves. This book is not only amazing it is a must for anyone, especially young adults.